As a woman I spend time to take care of my hair, my face, my
body, or just to sum it all, taking care of myself.
The way you present yourself in public is most often a
reflection of how you feel about yourself, how confident you are and so on. This
is not only for women but also for men. You know girls can tell whether or not
a man is confident, and the more confident a man is about himself, the more a
girl would trust them with their life.
Depending of what one’s past experiences are, one’s self
confidence may be boosted or can just be sucked out of them leaving them so
unsure about everything.
In my experience lack of self confidence can be costly and
sometimes really costly that you spend a whole life time regretting for that
lost opportunity.
A friend of mine told me a story once, a true story, about two
people who really liked each other. They spent a lot of time together and did so
many things together. Everyone could have thought there was more than
friendship between the two. They used to hang out and do most of the fun things
together but in their heart of hearts there was this big hole they just could
not figure out where they stood. Sometimes they would think that its just
friendship another day it would feel like a relationship was blossoming. This
went on for years and the girl thought one day the guy would say something and
the guy was hoping that one day the girl would say something. But as time went
on the girl was not sure what was going and the worst thing she was falling in
love, on the other hand the guy was still contemplating on what to do. And one
day the guy came and told the girl, “you are far more educated than I am” and
this sealed it, the girl knew that the future she thought was there for a
relationship with this guy was bleak.
The girl thought to herself, “ what went wrong? Does this mean
what that educational status surpasses love between to people? ” She just
could not understand.
My friend struggled to keep a smile on her face as she knew this
guy was dating someone else even though he never told her. Many were the
occasions where the two girls met, and my friend was just dying from inside and
she respected the guys decision to date someone else, but she just could not
understand why the guy left her.
It was the man’s choice to leave my friend and go for another
girl but can you imagine how much my friend’s self-confidence was shattered?
Her confidence was shaken especially that this was not the first time it
happened to her that someone left her due to her educational status. The one
thing that encouraged my friend was her faith in God; she believed that
whatever was meant to be hers will come to be. She pulled through this
situation and now she looks back and just smiles at the great moments that they
spent together and of course sometimes thinks of what it would have been like
if things had turned differently.
The moral of this story is that my friend’s self confidence was
shattered due to her experiences, and I know most of you relate to this story,
your story may not be the same as the one above but you may have gone through
similar if not other experiences that have challenged your self-confidence.
The truth is that each one of us has a part within that can
never be changed, which is so special that even if people could try and destroy
you in one way or the other, “the real you” will still stand.
God made us in a way that we can withstand so many things, that
we can go through the toughest experiences in life, be beaten and destroyed but
by and by we can get back on our feet. It may take days, months even many years
but at the end of it all we can still stand and encourage someone with our
experiences.
That part of us, the one I call “the real you” even though it
has been trampled upon and its beauty marred, with time it recovers and its
beauty blossoms again bringing out the REAL YOU.
No matter what the experience may be you can still get your
self-confidence back. It’s a choice you have to make, believe in yourself and
pull yourself back and trust that you can be the best you can be no matter what
people say or think about you.
Remember champions are those who have endured and never gave up.
No matter how many times they failed they tried again and again each time
believing that one day they will win.
So I stand here to tell you that no-one should play around with
your life, if it means you have to walk away to gain your self confidence,
WALK; if it means giving up what you cherished to gain back your
self-confidence, GIVE IT UP; if it means to start all over again to gain your
self-confidence, START OVER.
Discover the real you and stand for it.
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