TWO SIDES OF LIFE

Every day as I commute to work I can't help noticing the society that surrounds me. 

Beautiful and expensive cars cruising by on the other side of the road a man completely lost in his own world of thoughts. The man looks sad and the sound of the passing vehicles does not seem to disturb him at all. His face shows no reaction to the passersby he is really in his own world. 

As I continue walking I meet people complaining about so many things that are just going wrong in their day to day living. How they can not afford this or that, how their landlord is increasing their rent but not fixing their house. On the other hand there are those happily talking about their newly built house and their new projects, to buy more land and fields, more cars and so on.

Then I am at the entrance to the main hospital in Blantyre, all I see are sad faces, people coming from seeing the sick, others look so hopeless as they have just given up on hope. There are those who are so sick that they dont care how they look all they wish for is if they could feel better again and live a normal life.

A woman walks to me and says, " please give me the little that you have so I can buy a banana to eat". I look straight in her eyes she is hungry, her voice is shaky and she is out of breath, not from running but because she does not have enough energy to walk in the heat of the sun. She continues " I have been waiting all morning on the queue to get my medication but they have closed for lunch".

As I arrive at my destination, I kept telling myself what a life! There are just two sides of life, you are either happy or sad. Whether rich or poor, young or old, just like a coin has two sides so does life. The heads or tails of life is just  happy or sad! Unfortunately unlike the coin, you don't choose in advance which side of life you want.

What a life!

IN A 'MOMENT'

What is a 'moment'?

A moment can be defined as "a particular point in time", "an indefinately short time", and "here and now at this time". I decided to bring up all these definitions of a moment so as to help us understand how crucial a moment is or can be.

In a moment one can change their whole life in a good way or a bad way. For example in a competition the defining moment is when the game is over, then the winner or the loser is known. This is a defining moment.

How many defining moments do we have in our lives? 

Each and everyday we are faced with many decisions to make concerning our lives, and each moment we make a decision, it is a defining moment. For the decisions we make can build us or destroy us. The decisons we make can make us happy or make us sad. There are even times we have to make decisions which will affect our lives so much that our perception of life can be changed forever.

Many are the times one will say "I think I have changed" or may be someone will tell you that "I think you have changed". Even though the change might have been happening gradually, there is a moment when we decided to change, could be due to circumstances, encouters, observations just to sum it all our experiences.

Many are the experiences in our lives and each experience can be a sum of many moments that gradually define who we are and how we behave and most of all our perceptions of life.

For example, there are people who can be very insecure for whatever reasons. At the end of the day their insecurities will define their behaviour. These insecurities could have originated from moments where somebody just shattered their confidence, or the words that were said to them by someone, or their childhood and upbringing. All these happen in a moment really. In that short period of time when one was angry and said all those bad words a relationship was shattered.The moment that one fell asleep on the wheel and lost control of the vehicle. The moment one won a jackpot and became a millionare, the moment one had a great performance and the whole world recognized their talent and now they are big stars. The list of moments is endless I am sure you can add on to the list.

Remember it is all in a moment.

My life is defined by so many moments which have been summed up into experiences that now define who I am and my perceptions of life.

Moments are crucial, moments are precious, moments are meant to be rembered, and if it is a moment to celebrate enjoy every bit of it. For every moment always comes once and there will be never another moment simillar to your previous moment.

We learn from mistakes, and experience is always a good teacher and great moments are never to be missed. Remember a moment can just be a split second, a minute, an hour or a day....

Whatever your moment is, don't miss it, learn from it and move on.

What are or were your defining moments?