Oh wow! she looks great, look at the way she walks, I like the way she talks but...........................
Is this any familiar to you? I bet some of you know what I am driving at, yes that issue where you have to make a decision of whether or not to approach "her". Mmhmm that "her" that you meet everyday and you chat but can not tell her the truth about how you feel about "her", that "her" that you have conversations with in the confinement of your bathroom and the mirror but that conversation never comes to be when she is around, should I continue....
The fact of the matter is why can't you tell her the truth? Why ?
Some of the reasons my male friends have pointed out include:
- She is more educated than me
- She is more well to do than me
- She is too beautiful for me
OK, these could be true about "her", but if you really like her will these three reasons above stop you from approaching her and tell "her" your feelings?
In as much as these three arguments may be true but the underlying factor, the root of the matter is RESPECT! Men talk to me here is this true?
"If she is more educated, she will not respect me enough" they say. But what really happens when "she" is more educated than you?
- She will have a good job hence financially secure
- Financial security in turn means she can provide for herself and her household
But is this all there is to a relationship? Does love have to be associated with what we have, or does it have to be about acceptance between the two involved parties? If "she" is more educated and is financially secure, there is that delicate element within "her", the one that is hidden behind all that education and financial security, "her" heart.
So what makes "her" not respect "him" when she is more educated? I think every "her" should be able to answer this question. If not I will ask all the "him s" to start this conversation and find out from "her".
If "she" loves "him", she will not think of the education, or the financial security, or her beauty, "she" will just love "him".
So if you feel scared to approach "her", find out if he loves you, because if she does, all these other "accessories", beauty, education and money will not matter.
On the other hand, it is also the action of "him" that will put off "her" and as a defensive mechanisms "she" can also show you what "she" is made of.
So if "him" respect "her", "she" will respect "him" in return, but if there is no respect, it will not work!
Just as much as "him" wants to be respected, so does "she" need love and respect as well.
Its a circle, "him" love and respect "her" and "her" love and respect "him".
"him" and "her" are all caught up in between "love and respect"
Best wishes as you ponder on this!
