Tears! it's amazing how many types or categories of tears exist. Tears of joy, tears of pain, tears of regret, tears of pleasure, tears of sorrow and many more.
As I sat and pondered at all these kinds of tears, I remembered that between the male and female of our species; it is very easy to see the tears of a woman than those of a man. You ask me why, I don't really have a straight answer but I can always speculate ( I think it's allowed). Some people say that women cry easily than men because they are very emotional, others say because women are soft, while others will say because they need attention and some will say they just love to cry.
In as much as all t he statements I have outlined above may have some truth in them, most of the times men may have a wrong idea why a woman cries. When a woman sheds tears , it may be because of the issue at hand but also because of a previous issues which happened or because of the outcomes of the issue being discussed. A good example is if we take a couple in a relationship, they have been together for a while, they have had issues which were tough but they have managed to pull through. In a case where a woman has been tolerating the man so many times, each time she tolerates a major mistake from the man, a small amount of trust is subtracted from the total trust she had in the man. With time if the man is not able to win back the woman's trust in the relationship the amount of trust this woman had in the partner wears thin. In no time the woman suddenly starts crying more than usual. For every little squabble she is crying, watch out she may just be announcing the end of the relationship. Then the distance between the couple starts to grow, less talking, less time spent together and the next thing you know one of them is not really interested in the other and then its over.
People can still remain in a relationship while they have been apart for years in their heart of hearts. In a marriage for example, a woman may still be married to a man whom she has divorced in her heart many years back. By the time she opens up and says, I want a divorce, its not a spontaneous decision, she could have made this decision years back and now she is just implementing it. And all this time the man could have just been saying my wife is getting too soft these days, she just cries for any little disagreement.
People can still remain in a relationship while they have been apart for years in their heart of hearts. In a marriage for example, a woman may still be married to a man whom she has divorced in her heart many years back. By the time she opens up and says, I want a divorce, its not a spontaneous decision, she could have made this decision years back and now she is just implementing it. And all this time the man could have just been saying my wife is getting too soft these days, she just cries for any little disagreement.
Some people may be saying no way, I think a woman is just complicated. Hahahaha I like this illustration that a male friend of mine sent trying to explain a woman: he said a woman is like a panel of switches, which you have to switch on so as to get the best of her while a man is just one switch, its either on or off.
If this is the picture men have of a woman, then you should know that every switch has its own alarm system and if you push the woman to the limit, she will just shut down either due to system overload or just to preserve her dignity and respect.
Tears of a woman; they are much more complicated than one might think.
3 comments:
It's our make up as women! We are just made that way. We filter everything around us through emotions, while for men, they mainly are just logical thinkers. So a simple statement which a man may think is simple, a woman takes it to heart,etc.
I agree with you, women are made that way. What will the world be like if everyone was a logical thinker? No room for fun! emotions make the world go round! Without emotions there will be no feelings.
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