What a real "smile" can do!

A real smile can

• cheer someone up on a grey day
• make someone realize that there is a light at the end of the tunnel
• make someone realize they are special
  
• make one realize that inspite of it all one just has to smile
• soften a hardened heart
• can melt the strong
• bring people together
  
• make someone feel cared for
• make someone feel special
• show that you care
• make an angry face relax
• give you a better look

A real smile is a gift from the heart, a genuinely thought through feeling expressed in a simple way.

Have a blessed day.. keep smiling!

The Art of Compromise

In my previous entry I wrote about simplicity, how we miss the simple but most profound moments because we are blinded by our "wants".

In line with that, I thought of another interesting thing which is crucial if one wants a lasting relationship and that is COMPROMISE.

I was having a discussion with one of my coleagues today about living with people, be it in a shared household, in a community, and anywhere else. During this discussion we found ourselves mentioning the word compromise. It is interesting to note that in every relationship, be it with people at work, friends, spouses, family, there is need for compromise.

As we all know by now, each person is unique in a sense that we all have different characters and behaviour which describe who we are. The interesting thing is that even though we may be 99% happy with ourselves characterwise we may be 40% a pain to someone else. What do I mean by this? Not everything we do which is pleasant and amusing to us can be pleasing to others, and the vice versa is also true. This is where compromise comes in.

When we talk of compromise we talk of tolerating people to a certain extent by learning and understanding them. In which ever type of relationship there is need for sacrifice and patience in order to learn and understand the other party. This is not easy but it does pay off in the long run.

With compromise one must accept to give up part of what they like for the sake of the other. To tell the truth this is not easy. The interesting thing is that compromise is not only for one partner in the relationship, but both partners have to be willing to give up something in oder to produce a better and lasting relationship. If you are not willing to compromise dont expect your partner to compromise and also with the same measure you compromise for someone in a relationship you should expect to get the same from the other party (sometimes its not the case). At the end of the day there is need for a better understanding between the parties involved in a relationship in order to reach a compromise and build a lasting relationship.

In as much as we compromise in a relationship we should learn to make a "wise" compromise.

Whew! I think I stop here for today.
Best wishes

Simplicity!

I was coming from work last Friday and found myself sitting next to a lady. She was simple with a rather calm appearance. Trying to strike a conversation, I greeted her and we started talking. The usual questions followed, "where do you come from?" "what do you do?" and so on.

She from Calcutta India, and she had been in the country (where we met) for some years. Then I asked a simple but most frequently asked question, "do you like it here?"
The lady looked at me and with a smile she said, "as long as I have food and shelter, I am satisfied, I am not fussy".

I was really touched by her answer, this led me thinking down memory lane, I thought of different moments in my life where I should have been thankful, many moments which I have taken for granted, many times where I narrowly escaped harms hand but I never even took time to be thankful for those moments.

Think of how we easily forget about the roof we have above our heads, the food that we eat everyday, and we complain so much about our other wants. How we forget that there are people out there who wish they could have just a roof above their heads and a meal for their stomach. How we become so self centered and think only about our wants and forget to appreciate what we have. How we always spend time praying asking God to do something in our lives but we forget to thank Him for what He has already done.

I hope you relate with me where I am coming from and where I am going with this matter.

Be thankful for what you have and remember that there are many others who wish they would have the same things you have but simply can not.

Simplicity! As long as you have a roof on your head and your stomach is not empty, you have something to thank God for.

Blessings

Beautiful Things in Life!

Hello again.. after such a long silence I thought I could write and share with you about beautiful things in life.

There is a saying that "beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder" and to large extent I do agree with this saying. What do you consider as beautiful things in your life? Is it the people that surround you, the possessions that you have, the car, the house, the shoes, the gardens, the list is endless. How about beautiful moments, have you ever had a moment that you wished you could freeze and just keep forever?

Many beautiful moments happenin life, I love spring, a season of new life, new beginning and beauty. If you live in the Northern hemisphere you will understand better what spring is all about.

During the spring is when all those dead looking plants and trees come back to life, the time you see the grey of winter slowly disappearing and different colours coming out from trees and plants. It is a beautiful sight. The soft breezed, chilly mornings followed by a warm afternoon with blue skies crowns it all, it is spring! All the grey days of the long winter are quickly forgotten as spring puts colour into the land.

Friends have you ever had grey moments in life that seemed never to end. Moments you wished were over and don't seem to get over? Well, I have had those moments they seemed so long (because they were long) and there was no thought of a light at the end of the tunnel. But you know what, the light finally came and just like spring, everything came back to life and it was beautiful.

I am writting to encourage you friends that when these beautiful moments come, let us be ready to look back and cherish our grey days, because no matter how grey they were, finally a beatiful moment has sprang out of it. I know that certain moments are so grey (even black) that we dont even want to remember them, it is very normal, when time comes, when it is the right time, we will look back and appreciate the beautiful moments that came out of them.

There is no winter without spring, and there is no beautiful moment without hard and long, and sometimes even painful days. Like spring, let us begin afresh. Its never too late to start all over again. You only live once, but in a life time you have a chance to start all over again, meaning that there will always be spring.

Just as a mother celebrates the birth of her child and forgets about all those awful moments, and just smiles at the beauty in her hands, let us learn to celebrate our beautiful moments without letting the past grey days ruin them.

I wish you the very best
cheers

TOWARDS THE GOAL

There are moments in life which are a mile stone, a mark that you will always remember.
I am grateful for moments like these. I am thankful to God for such moments.

You know even in the longest and the toughest road you may travel in life, there are moments you look back to. Make sure you don’t miss these special moments do not blur them with anger and bitterness, let these moments bring a smile on your face and cherish the beauty that came out of them.

Share these moments they can put a smile on someone’s face.
All the best as you cherish your milestones in life.

A Thought for the day

Hello again...
After a long time of silence I am back, and today I thought I could share some thoughts.

It is not easy to understand people but if you can learn to live with them, its one step towards understanding them.

Life is full of surprises, and so are people, there is always something you don't know about those closest to you. So learn to handle surprises because sooner or later you will be the one surprising them.

As it is said in the Holy Bible, "judge not for you will be judged with the same measure that you use on others so will it be applied to you".. wow! It is very easy to judge others but we forget to apply the measures we use for others to ourselves. Try it and let me know if you will be as judgemental as before.

Learn to accept ones mistakes and failures instead of pointing fingers at others and shifting the blame on others. In that way one will find a better side of themselves and learn to take responsibility.

If we could have a choice we could only love those whom we care for and like, but have we for once thought of people who love and care for us even though we dont care or love them.

Learn to appreciate every person for who they are and see the best side of them and not the bad side always. Everyone has a good side no matter how bad they may be.

Have a nice weekend!

HAPPY EASTER

Hello dear ones.
I just wanted to wish you all a Happy Easter. I hope you had a blessed time, I did.

All the best and God Bless!