For the past weeks I have been thinking a lot about the reason why certain things are the way they are. I have been walking in different streets and meeting different people from all walks of life. Some people looked happy, others well dressed and others looked sad and blown down by the winds of life.
This made me ponder a bit on what is the meaning of life and why some people seem to have it good and others not, why others seem to be always on the down side of life while others are soaring high and happy.
These thoughts also led me to think about friendships. I was asking the question who is my friend, how much can I invest in a friendship, and how much can I trust my friend?
Thinking about these questions, I have seen that there are so many unanswered questions in life which everyone tries to address in their own different way that seems right and appropriate. Solutions to these qustions may be good for a certain group of people and not for others.
This led me into thinking of the saying “life is not fair”, is life indeed not fair? Is there something we can do to make it fair?
Are friends really forever, or they are only for a certain period? How can one know who is a true friend? Can one ever have a true friend? Is there anything as a true friend?
I believe there are many different answers that can be given to the different questions I have posed here.
Which ever the case, I think it is possible to have a true friend as long as one is willing to invest in the friendship.
As for the question “is life fair”? Well there are a lot of challenges in our world and in the human mind and eye; it is difficult t say that life is fair.
I would love to hear your views on this topic.
Until next time stay blessed and as you think about yourselves, think about others as well.
Sunday, 14 September 2008
Wednesday, 27 August 2008
OUR FATHER
Every child’s behaviour most of the times reflects their background. Each and every caring family, teach their children while young principles pertaining to life. If this child is understanding and obedient, the child will take up whatever the parents have taught him or her and utilise them in their day to day life.
Whether it is good or bad, a child will also take on the behaviour of the parents. Let’s say if the child’s parents are drunkards, or are constantly fighting in the house, the child will see nothing wrong in drinking or fighting, because that is what his parents do. In the same way, if the parents are well behaved, the child will also grow up into a well behaved chap unless he or she decides on their own to go astray.
So is our relationship with our Heavenly father. God wants us to take up all what He has done and keeps on doing everyday as life lessons that will carry us through in life. He is our model just as parents are to their children.
Let us look back to where we belong, if we are children of God are we following what He has taught us or we are on the disobedient side. Jesus Christ set an Example for us in his life here on earth. He is the first born of all creation let us follow His footsteps. God wants us to grow in His likeness for in His likeness He created us
Stay Blessed
Whether it is good or bad, a child will also take on the behaviour of the parents. Let’s say if the child’s parents are drunkards, or are constantly fighting in the house, the child will see nothing wrong in drinking or fighting, because that is what his parents do. In the same way, if the parents are well behaved, the child will also grow up into a well behaved chap unless he or she decides on their own to go astray.
So is our relationship with our Heavenly father. God wants us to take up all what He has done and keeps on doing everyday as life lessons that will carry us through in life. He is our model just as parents are to their children.
Let us look back to where we belong, if we are children of God are we following what He has taught us or we are on the disobedient side. Jesus Christ set an Example for us in his life here on earth. He is the first born of all creation let us follow His footsteps. God wants us to grow in His likeness for in His likeness He created us
Stay Blessed
Friday, 8 August 2008
LESSONS IN LIFE
Hello friends, this week I have had some interesting encounters which have taught me a few life lessons which I thought I share with you.
I will share them to you in the form of a story so you can follow exactly what happened.
Two days ago as I was on my way to work, I got on a bus and the bus driver leaned to talk to me as I was just getting on the bus. Mind you the society where I find myself living here, is one where rarely people talk to each other be it on a bus stop, in the bus, in the cafe or anywhere. It's a society where everyone minds their own business and are never bothered about the person next to them or next door. So with this mentality, the gesture of the bus driver talking to me made me think, "has my ticket expired?" or "what is he up to?". Whilst I was still trying to sort the questions in my mind, the driver asked me a question which took me offguard. He said to me "have you used this bus route before?" I answered "yes I have", then he continued " could you please direct me which way I have to go from here because I am confused and the map I have is old." I thought for a second, he must be joking, then I answered him and explained to him how he has to drive to get to the last stop which was also my stop. I noticed as he continued driving that he was telling the truth he did not know where he was going and all he was doing was trusting the directions I gave him that he, will take me and the rest of the passengers in the bus to our right destination.
This story taught me one big lesson "Never assume". Honestly I had all reason to assume that a bus driver knows it all when it comes to directions. Here he is driving the bus all around the city why should he ask me for directions. I realised how much I may have hurt or not been of help to so many people because I assumed they knew what they were doing or where they were going.
Friends it is very easy for us to fall into the "assumption trap", let us be cautious of ourselves that we do not miss an opportunity to help someone or let someone end up in trouble because we assumed they knew.
Another interesting twist to the story was that the bus driver trusted me when I told him which direction he should drive. Trust is an important virtue in life, if we have to survive in this world we have to trust atleast in a few people otherwise nothing will work. No man is an island, we all need someone to stand by us or walk along with us whichever direction we are taking in life. Sometimes even if the future seems bleak let us trust as the bus driver did.
Another lesson I got from this story is humility. Can you imagine how humbling it must have been for the bus driver to ask for directions from a passenger? I am sure he should have been thinking about it for a long time and he was prepared for whatever reaction he was going to get from the person he was going to ask for the directions. But he did it anyway.
Sometimes life demands that we humble ourselves in order to get to what we need or what we want to achieve. Can you imagine if this bus driver did not humble himself to ask?
I wish you a great a nd blessed weekend as you ponder on this story.
Until next time, God Bless
I will share them to you in the form of a story so you can follow exactly what happened.
Two days ago as I was on my way to work, I got on a bus and the bus driver leaned to talk to me as I was just getting on the bus. Mind you the society where I find myself living here, is one where rarely people talk to each other be it on a bus stop, in the bus, in the cafe or anywhere. It's a society where everyone minds their own business and are never bothered about the person next to them or next door. So with this mentality, the gesture of the bus driver talking to me made me think, "has my ticket expired?" or "what is he up to?". Whilst I was still trying to sort the questions in my mind, the driver asked me a question which took me offguard. He said to me "have you used this bus route before?" I answered "yes I have", then he continued " could you please direct me which way I have to go from here because I am confused and the map I have is old." I thought for a second, he must be joking, then I answered him and explained to him how he has to drive to get to the last stop which was also my stop. I noticed as he continued driving that he was telling the truth he did not know where he was going and all he was doing was trusting the directions I gave him that he, will take me and the rest of the passengers in the bus to our right destination.
This story taught me one big lesson "Never assume". Honestly I had all reason to assume that a bus driver knows it all when it comes to directions. Here he is driving the bus all around the city why should he ask me for directions. I realised how much I may have hurt or not been of help to so many people because I assumed they knew what they were doing or where they were going.
Friends it is very easy for us to fall into the "assumption trap", let us be cautious of ourselves that we do not miss an opportunity to help someone or let someone end up in trouble because we assumed they knew.
Another interesting twist to the story was that the bus driver trusted me when I told him which direction he should drive. Trust is an important virtue in life, if we have to survive in this world we have to trust atleast in a few people otherwise nothing will work. No man is an island, we all need someone to stand by us or walk along with us whichever direction we are taking in life. Sometimes even if the future seems bleak let us trust as the bus driver did.
Another lesson I got from this story is humility. Can you imagine how humbling it must have been for the bus driver to ask for directions from a passenger? I am sure he should have been thinking about it for a long time and he was prepared for whatever reaction he was going to get from the person he was going to ask for the directions. But he did it anyway.
Sometimes life demands that we humble ourselves in order to get to what we need or what we want to achieve. Can you imagine if this bus driver did not humble himself to ask?
I wish you a great a nd blessed weekend as you ponder on this story.
Until next time, God Bless
Thursday, 17 July 2008
PROVERBS!
HAHAHAAHA lero tiyendera tiphunzitsane mikuluwiko...
OOps! I started writing in Chichewa, that is just because I am so excited to share some proverbs that one of my friends sent me.
As you know it is a long running tradition in Africa and other countries in Asia that people/adults use proverbs to teach some of life's big or great lessons as well as pump wisdom into the younger generation. Proverbs have also been used as forms of expression where the person who is being told should figure out on their own what message is being relayed to them.
So here are some of the proverbs from Africa that made me laugh this week.
I hope you will enjoy reading them and trying to figure out what they mean.
The country where each proverb originates has been indicated at the end of each proverb.
When a man is stung by a bee, he doesn't set off to destroy all
beehives" - ( Kenya ).
"The man who marries a beautiful woman, and the farmer who grows corn by the roadside have the same problem" - Ethiopia .
"A short man is not a boy" – Nigeria
"No matter how hot your anger is, it cannot cook yam" - Nigeria .
"An old lady feels uneasy when dry bones are mentioned in a proverb" - Ghana.
"The same sun that melts the wax, hardens the clay" - Niger.
"If you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there" - Uganda
"There's no virgin in a maternity ward" - Cameroon.
I hope you enjoyed reading the proverbs as much as I did.
Until next time ....Dzimvere mu mtolo!
OOps! I started writing in Chichewa, that is just because I am so excited to share some proverbs that one of my friends sent me.
As you know it is a long running tradition in Africa and other countries in Asia that people/adults use proverbs to teach some of life's big or great lessons as well as pump wisdom into the younger generation. Proverbs have also been used as forms of expression where the person who is being told should figure out on their own what message is being relayed to them.
So here are some of the proverbs from Africa that made me laugh this week.
I hope you will enjoy reading them and trying to figure out what they mean.
The country where each proverb originates has been indicated at the end of each proverb.
When a man is stung by a bee, he doesn't set off to destroy all
beehives" - ( Kenya ).
"The man who marries a beautiful woman, and the farmer who grows corn by the roadside have the same problem" - Ethiopia .
"A short man is not a boy" – Nigeria
"No matter how hot your anger is, it cannot cook yam" - Nigeria .
"An old lady feels uneasy when dry bones are mentioned in a proverb" - Ghana.
"The same sun that melts the wax, hardens the clay" - Niger.
"If you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there" - Uganda
"There's no virgin in a maternity ward" - Cameroon.
I hope you enjoyed reading the proverbs as much as I did.
Until next time ....Dzimvere mu mtolo!
Thursday, 10 July 2008
WHERE IT ALL STARTED
Hello friends, today I was listening to the very first recording of the songs from our first album which me and my sister Carol recorded at Transworld radio it gave me fond memories that I thought I could share with you.
The project to record the album "Ablaze Kuyaka" started in a very simple manner where my parents first encouraged us that if we want to record our music they would willingly support us.
To get the ball rolling I spoke with Peter K, he was working for Scripture Union, in Area14 , in Lilongwe by that time. He was also leading the "scripture union band" ( I dont remember if the band had another name) and together we rehearsed and recorded the first 10 track album "ABLAZE KUYAKA".
I write today to say THANK YOU, to all the guys who were there to support me and my sister Carol when we recorded this album. Peter K, you were so instrumental in putting up the whole band and sparing your time to help us record the album. Believe you me by then I had no clue of what goes on during the recording and everything that follows but Peter K took us through. I would like also to thank all the members of the Scripture union band at that time (1999), who tirelessly worked with us and even survived the overnight recording at Transworld radio studio in Lilongwe. Dingi J, I appreciate your time and the beautiful tenor that you put in the songs. My sister Carol, you were the best soprano you sang through all the songs tirelessly. And to the one who was doing the recording at Transworld radio (sorry I forgot your name), thanks a million, this was the beginning of a life long commitment to serve God through music and you played a big part.
Many thanks to my parents for the encouragement to me and Carol and providing transport and food to the rest of the band during the recording and shouldering all the expenses during the recording of the album.
Above all thanks to God almighty for all he has done and taking me where I am today with my music career.
Some people may be wondering why I am sharing this, I am writing this because it is important to remember those who have helped you to be where you are today, and also to appreciate how far you have come from.
To be where you are today, remember there is a place and time WHERE IT ALL STARTED! Dont forget where it all started!
Many blessings
The project to record the album "Ablaze Kuyaka" started in a very simple manner where my parents first encouraged us that if we want to record our music they would willingly support us.
To get the ball rolling I spoke with Peter K, he was working for Scripture Union, in Area14 , in Lilongwe by that time. He was also leading the "scripture union band" ( I dont remember if the band had another name) and together we rehearsed and recorded the first 10 track album "ABLAZE KUYAKA".
I write today to say THANK YOU, to all the guys who were there to support me and my sister Carol when we recorded this album. Peter K, you were so instrumental in putting up the whole band and sparing your time to help us record the album. Believe you me by then I had no clue of what goes on during the recording and everything that follows but Peter K took us through. I would like also to thank all the members of the Scripture union band at that time (1999), who tirelessly worked with us and even survived the overnight recording at Transworld radio studio in Lilongwe. Dingi J, I appreciate your time and the beautiful tenor that you put in the songs. My sister Carol, you were the best soprano you sang through all the songs tirelessly. And to the one who was doing the recording at Transworld radio (sorry I forgot your name), thanks a million, this was the beginning of a life long commitment to serve God through music and you played a big part.
Many thanks to my parents for the encouragement to me and Carol and providing transport and food to the rest of the band during the recording and shouldering all the expenses during the recording of the album.
Above all thanks to God almighty for all he has done and taking me where I am today with my music career.
Some people may be wondering why I am sharing this, I am writing this because it is important to remember those who have helped you to be where you are today, and also to appreciate how far you have come from.
To be where you are today, remember there is a place and time WHERE IT ALL STARTED! Dont forget where it all started!
Many blessings
Tuesday, 1 July 2008
WELCOME NEW BEGINNINGS!
Hello friends
I know its been´a while since I wrote something on my blog, but I am back now.
Today I thought we discuss the topic "Welcome new beginnings!"
I know some of you are already having millions of questions in your minds, "what is Nya mphande trying to say?"
Well remember in my last entry I wrote about " when all seems lost", well, when that happens it is important for one to look at the bright side of life and that's where todays entry comes in.
I spent the month of June thinking about a lot of things that were happening around me, and all that I could hear in my head was "welcome new begginings!"
Yes it is important to face circumstances in life and also to accept changes that happen in life.
Sometimes we spend time "crying over spilled milk" which can never be recovered. It is important and very crucial to know that after "crying over that spilled milk" we have to pick ourselves up and either fetch for another cup of milk or accept the fact that we dont have any more milk. What am I trying to say here, no matter what you are going through, whatever the circumstances, know that there is always another chance of starting all over again, a chance for a new beginning.
My dear friends let us not deny ourselves this chance by clinging on to what used to be (spilled milk), let us move on and see what we can achieve now in whatever circumstances were in.
It is always my joy to share with you.
I hope you get a fresh start, a NEW BEGINNING!
Love
Tuesday, 3 June 2008
WHEN ALL SEEMS LOST!
Hello again, today I just thought we share on the topic "when all seems lost".
Have you ever sat down and looked back or reflected at your life and what you have been through and at the end of it all just feel like all is lost? Well I have. Lost friends, lost relationships, lost time, lost opportunities, lost ... the list goes on and on.
When this happens I sometimes feel so low and helpless. But I have also realised that in looking back at such things, it's the time I see how far the Lord has brought me to be where I am today. Painful as it is to have lost those moments but it is also the moment that I have gained so much more than my human mind could have imagined.
Sit back and reflect on your life today, instead of counting on all those lost moments and occasions, COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS.
It is always my joy to share my thoughts with you. I hope you have been uplifted today.
Stay blessed
Have you ever sat down and looked back or reflected at your life and what you have been through and at the end of it all just feel like all is lost? Well I have. Lost friends, lost relationships, lost time, lost opportunities, lost ... the list goes on and on.
When this happens I sometimes feel so low and helpless. But I have also realised that in looking back at such things, it's the time I see how far the Lord has brought me to be where I am today. Painful as it is to have lost those moments but it is also the moment that I have gained so much more than my human mind could have imagined.
Sit back and reflect on your life today, instead of counting on all those lost moments and occasions, COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS.
It is always my joy to share my thoughts with you. I hope you have been uplifted today.
Stay blessed
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